The team of modern daters adds a necessary dimension of camaraderie, insight, humor and validation which serves to steady, expedite and clarify in pursuit of a well-matched partner.
The therapist adds solid understanding of our various relational styles, personalities, and the interplay of our histories and goals to enhance personal insight in pursuit of a partner.
Venturing toward dating can be some of our toughest moments - it challenges our self-esteem, endurance, vulnerability; and entails refinement of our self-understanding, strengthening of our resolve, requires space for vacillations, an openness to change and embracing of new experiences. It reveals patterns that no longer serve us and can be immensely lonely, confusing, catalyzing and humbling. whew.
the very act of conscious dating can be a process by which we find our natural, authentic attributes; and refine what really resonates for us individually.
As with any other important endeavor in our lives, in dating we need to get to know our vulnerability, take risks, find acceptance and confidence within our selves in order to persevere toward our aspirations. The philosophy of the studio is to bring our full authentic self to our dating experience - rendering us able to define for ourselves and recognize a best-fit for our lives, rather then “this will do”.
Insight Out Studio is a space for stretching our understanding of ourself and others. One of the paramount strengths of the studio is the ability for each of us to move intellectually and emotionally in parallel with other daters but with our own cadence and goals; obtaining many perspectives on our dating experiences; hearing our thoughts and gifts echoed back with different intonations. The studio was created as a space to stake out our stance for the exploration of ourselves as we prepare for, continue or persevere through modern dating.
sometimes we need a space, after our very first date or the 100th first-date, that is nurturing; similarly focused; insightful and encouraging;
sometimes we need a space to pause from the intensity dating can entail, and yet know that we are not losing traction on our goal to partner;
sometimes we need help seeing how our values, individuality and needs are complimented (or not) by who we gravitate toward;
sometimes we have lost our sense of our own uniqueness and we need the perspective of others to understand it and seek someone who enhances, not just accompanies.
A cohort reflects back to us the truth of what we are experiencing better then anyone outside of the current dating realm. Our self-understanding and resolve is expedited. In their recounts, we begin to see and clarify the meaning of our own encounters. We need the insights of others in the throes of dating, other daters who understand the ebb and flow of choosing when to put energy forth and when to seek reprieve, others who know the daunting experience of posting a profile, the deflation of a disappointing date, the nuances of our single-hood experience that coupled friends soon forget.
The team of other modern daters creates the opportunity of finding friends of common ground who see us with all our vulnerability glowing.
And with so much of the initial dating experience being virtual, having in-person conversations with other daters can be tremendously grounding and connecting. In the studio, we can see facial expressions, hear intonations, observe the feelings of others as they respond to our descriptions and express their own. Lifting the isolation component of the dating journey renders the overall experience richer, deeper and even lighter.
I am absolutely passionate about helping people find their individual route to peace, thriving and fulfillment. In this vein, facilitating Insight Out Studio groups for modern daters is an endeavor that thrills me - dating is the hope to manifest outwardly the peace we begin to feel inwardly. Facilitating these sessions also touches on my own experiences in modern dating as well as others’ journeys I have observed; witnessing joyously the tentative and yet courageous steps of many into the dating world in pursuit of a partner uniquely suited to their authentic selves. Aside from the goal of partnering, the psychology component of dating can render it a time of finding joy and peace in one’s own company, appreciating our own authentic traits and honoring our particular needs and wants.
What works best for each of us is individual and dynamic. In my experience, each of our personal paths are discovered through challenges as much as rich experiences - combining to render immense beauty. Participants in Insight Out Studio groups have determined to try including another person in their life journey and are figuring out what this looks like and how to pursue it. It is a journey of finding our own philosophies, enjoyment, places for growth and ways to maneuver as a result of and in spite of struggles and pain - embracing the ambiguity in transitions; poetically deciphering the complexity of our lives. And then finding a partner who resonates with our deeper self.
The team of other modern daters expedites our insights, validates and keeps us going. The therapist guides us in finding our own way toward a great fit. And the studio provides a fresh, safe space to grow beyond our knowing and reach for who uniquely resonates with that vulnerable and courageous self.
We will post the days and times for the new groups soon. They will be for all stages of dating life, meeting weekly for 5 weeks. Send an email to inquire about openings. We want to support you in your courageous journey into and in the depths of dating.
The cost is $70/session.
